Gay Rights v. Natural Family

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I’m a Mormon and I’m conservative. Here are some answers to questions you may have:

Are Mormons anti-gay? Read this short explanation.

Next, here’s the Mormon website about being Mormon and gay

Is there a “gay agenda?” You decide.

Sharon Slater, President of Family Watch International, is a vigilant watchdog of the United Nations policies opposing the natural family. She is to be commended for producing this informative video. Any federally-elected official involved in foreign policy or state-elected official involved in family policy must watch this video and become better educated on the vigorous agenda the progressive Left is imposing from the international to the local levels of governance.

That should settle it.

My Personal Background

I grew up in Hollywood, California and was active in my Mormon congregation there. Needless to say, there were gay Mormons back then in abundance in that environment at Church. They actively participated in our church activities without discussion about their orientation.

Years later, while living in the New York City area, I owned an entertainment-related company. About 50% of my employees were gay. I hired them because I knew them – they were friends from shows we had performed in together. And they were the most qualified.

On Broadway Workshops - Jonathan Cerullo and Dennis Buck
On Broadway Workshops – Jonathan Cerullo and Dennis Buck

One day in our preparations, my new managing director approached me and said, “So, how is this going to work anyway – a Mormon and a gay man?” That was easy.

“Matt, I hired you because you are about the funniest and most talented guy I know. You are perfect for working with the young and aspiring talented people that will attend our program. They are coming to NYC to work with the best in the Broadway industry. Their parents are counting on us to give them a great experience and to make it safe. So I’ve set up ‘BYU standards’ – modest dress, no alcohol, no vulgar language and a high standard of morality. It doesn’t matter what lifestyle our employees have – heterosexual or homosexual – we will keep that information within our own private four walls and present a professional environment. The reputation of the company and its future success depends on it.”

No further questions were asked. We had a great experience. I loved the work he did for us – and I miss it all very much. I have known many gay people from my performing days on a personal level from being in rehearsals and on stage with them night after night. We have laughed and cried and loved working on stage and behind the scenes together. I’ve lost a few friends to AIDS along the way, too.

Jen Gulbrandsen Miss America's Outstanding Teen 2005As my daughter began competing in the Miss America organization, some of her best supporters and coaches were gay. I am deeply appreciative of all the encouragement they gave her. We had such fun times! And what a terrific experience that was for her!

Mormons are taught to treat all people decently. Nothing has changed about any of that.

Conversely, it is discouraging to be called a “bigot” and other hateful names and to receive threatening phone calls because I’ve spoken out publicly on this sensitive topic. However, I understand that those who are critical simply do not know my background and how I’ve approached this subject.

But my deeply-held religious view is that marriage is for the purpose of bearing children and raising them in the healthiest, most optimal environment. Not a single social science study can show that any other environment is better than a home with both a mother AND a father.

It’s not about the adults. It’s about the children.

Additional Resources

The BSA and Gay Rights

Non-discrimination Laws

5 thoughts on “Gay Rights v. Natural Family”

  1. There is too much assumption that gays and lesbians are pedophiles. The overwhelming evidence of persons of trust, ESPECIALLY in the clergy – the ones people go to for guidance – sexually abuse and psycologically destroy lives. Not all religious are perverts, but they are certainly most vocal about their beliefs, and at the same time the most hypocritical and duplicitious. 

    As a witness to the pedophilia some 45+ years ago, in an all girl boarding school, and an interested observer of the headlines, I am so disgusted with all of the religious right, they are as low as the scummiest attorneys and used car salesmen. There are upstanding people in these professions, but they don’t profess to be representatives of the teachers of highest aspirations.  They are parasites, vermin, a plague on the innocent, and hide behind their religious title.  As long as written history has recorded it, and before.

    How do YOU sleep at night, liar, thief of lives?

    1. Sorry about your misfortune…I’ve been the brunt of some discrimination in my life as well. But I don’t recall calling anyone any ugly names or treating anyone unkindly. Where did you read that?

  2. Actually, Cherilyn you did treat people unkindly at the Highland meeting.  I saw your attitude on the news.  Instead of condemning same-sex marriages, why don’t you help establish what moral LGBTQ behaviors would look like in the schools and communities.  Not only that the news clip of the Sheriff seemed like he was a real demon.  His eyes were protruding and the anger he emitted was not healthy.  I’m not trying to name call, but the event really gives Utah, Mormons, and concervative citizens a bad name.  Also, the conservative film about sexual minorities, doesn’t really show the real harm that is being done, most of the arguments are more about bias.  I know some wonderful gay people who are very kind and loving.  I really think that what needs to change is identifying what would really harm a child.  For example, discussing Rosie Odonnel’s “A Family is a Family is a Family” that premiered on HBO helped the children of gay families feel seen and loved in the community.  How can that be a bad thing.  Whether or not you prevent gay marriage, or retain the word marriage for yourself, sexual minorities are living in the community.  1300 sexual minorities were married in 17 days, still many hid and didn’t want to come out, many of them are older individuals.  I watched a 74 year old woman cry this week and she and her partner have been together for nearly 50 years.  Still they are afraid to come out.  Nevertheless, they are in the community, paying their taxes and even paying for the building you hosted the sheriff in last week.  That just doesn’t make sense.  The only reason they even have the pride parade is to say hey I’m here don’t forget me.  I bet if all the states allowed same-sex marriage they wouldn’t even need to dance on a float anymore.  Imagine if you didn’t receive benefits but were forced to pay everyone else’s share.  How would you feel.  What you are doing may be a passion of yours, but is that really how you want to present yourself and our community.  It seems that Utah has failed when it comes to allowing freedom, being fair, and keeping religious and state issues separate.  I bet if Gayle Ruzicka and yourself would sit down with any sexual minority they would be willing to help work on the issues that you claim are unfixable.  What the community must understand is that all this hatred only creates chaos, the gays are still here in our community.  But we treat them as if they are foreigners instead of helping them feel welcome.  People who are treated like that usually do have trouble.  We need to be a part of the solution to these issues not create more problems for people.  


  3. Cherilyn, the article you are using for the Church is not the best one to represent us.  For example, when President Packer used the term so-called gays and lesbians. that was really a way that he was uncivil with sexual minorities.  The term so-called attacks their internalized identity, and immediately puts LGBTQs on the defensive.  We need to be kinder so that we can get the right message across.  Remember, this position led to the big 4500 person sit in  on Temple Square because he said something similar in the 2010 October Conference. I think they were upset because there were about 10 young gay teens that committed suicide after everything that happened during California’s Proposition 8.  I think we need to be more sensitive right now, especially since the state has invalidated all the marriages.  I think they have been pretty great so far, since they haven’t acted angry or retaliated about this.  It seems like we are being much worse than them.  What can we do to bring peace to our communities and offer the olive branch?


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