Saving Marriage – Why Utah Is So Important, How We Will Win and 10 Myths About Gay Marriage

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All eyes are on Utah in the wake of one federal judge’s unilateral ruling that Utah’s constitutional law (Amendment 3) defining marriage as between a man and a woman is unconstitutional.

Why is it so important for Utah to successfully defend its constitutional law?  And what difference will it make for the nation?

A video of Brian Brown, President of the National Organization of Marriage at our recent rally, Celebration of Marriage, January 28, 2014, Utah State Capitol, answers that question.  Utah is the focus in the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals.

In short, this is the first time a state’s constitutional law has been struck down by a federal court.  What happens next in the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals will pave the way for what happens next in the other states.  We cannot lose.  We must win, and it is winnable.

However, a well-funded media has repeated 10 myths so many times that many believe them to be true.  Here we examine them one-by-one with the desire that this information be shared with friends and family everywhere.  Your help is needed now to get these messages out far and wide because the Court of Public Opinion does make a difference and we cannot win without it in our favor.   It will take generous funding to match what our opponents have been doing.  Your contribution large or small to help us win. To donate, click on the donate button.

 Ten Myths About Same Sex Marriage and
Defending Traditional Marriage
(The LGBT community would like you to believe
these myths are true.)

Myth 1.     It’s a lost cause and not worth spending the money. 

Fact: Utah’s legal team is stellar and has assembled the best case ever submitted to any Court on this issue. The lead attorney has an 80% win rate in the 10th Circuit and is highly respected at the U.S. Supreme Court. What price would you put on saving your children’s future and religious liberty?

The Utah Attorney General’s office has retained Gene Schaerr, a graduate of the Yale Law School, as Utah’s outside counsel to develop and argue the defense case slated for an April 10, 2014 hearing at the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals.  He has agreed to do this for only $200,000.   The case will most likely be appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court, and costs are estimated at around $2 million.

Mr. Schaerr was in the U.S. Solicitor General’s office under Rex Lee in the Reagan Administration, and he has an 80% successful track record arguing before the 10th Circuit.  He is also well-respected at the U.S. Supreme Court as a constitutional specialist.

So critically important is the outcome of Utah’s Court challenge to defend its law upholding traditional marriage, Mr. Schaerr left his position at Winston & Strawn in Washington DC to take on this monumental role to defend Utah’s Amendment 3.

Individuals and organizations who have an interest and who would be harmed by the Court if it overturned this law are submitting compelling amicus curiae (friend of the Court briefs).  They represent a broad range of arguments to support and strengthen the case.  American Leadership Fund, under the leadership and direction of Cherilyn Eagar, has retained a qualified attorney with a winning record in same-sex marriage challenges around the country to defend Utah’s law.

In another infamous time in history when the business community allowed itself to become intimidated and stayed silent when confronted with the popular – but evil – ideas of the day, a courageous leader named Winston Churchill stepped forward and spoke these immortal words:

“Never give in.  Never give in.  Never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense.  Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”

It was his leadership and his courage that defeated that enemy.  It is this kind of principled leaders that American Leadership Fund seeks today.

Dante wrote:  “The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis.”

This is the moral – and religious – crisis of our day.  Neutrality is nothing short of cowardice.

What price would you cap on your children’s and grandchildren’s future, religious liberty, morality and state sovereignty?  Is there a cause more noble or of greater importance?

Myth #2:  What difference will it make?  It won’t affect me or my children.  Just “live and let live.” 

FACT: It makes all the difference to business, schools, churches and families. Take a look at what legalized gay marriage has done to Massachusetts over the last decade.

A video, produced by Brian Camenker of, describes how families and children, businesses, schools and churches have been adversely affected after a decade of legalized gay marriage and how it is more than just a fight for marriage equality.  The badgering, bullying and terrorizing of private citizens and businesses has only escalated.  Religious persecution has reached new heights.

The homosexual and heterosexual abuse of minors continues in public schools.  Will the U.S. soon follow London’s schools that teach pre-schoolers how to find self-induced sexual pleasure?  In 2009, a U.N. report advocated for such policies.  The homosexual and sex ed agendas are inseparably linked.

Myth #3:   They’re born that way. 

FACT: Pro-LGBT media and well-funded pro-gay groups and trade associations have censored the truth about social science studies that show the opposite.

A pamphlet published by Family Research Council examines key social science studies, including the “brain,” “twin” and “gene” studies, that show the lack of evidence that homosexuality is inborn, involuntary and immutable.

Myth #4:  It’s a civil rights issue. You’re a bigot if you don’t support the 14th Amendment. 

FACT: By the Court’s standard for civil rights, homosexuality does not rise to the level of a protected, special class. Activist judges are ignoring their own rules to legislate from the Bench.

The Judges that have struck down state marriage laws have done so using a false interpretation of the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment.  The Supreme Court has defined a civil right.  It must meet these three criteria:  1) inborn, involuntary and immutable; 2) innocuous; and, 3) it must be found in the Constitution.  This same pamphlet covers this legal definition of a “civil right” and shows that homosexuality does not meet that definition.

LGBT activists want you to believe that this is about the civil rights of consenting adults to have a pleasurable relationship, equally protected as marriage.  By so doing, they demand a new definition of marriage.  We maintain that the utilitarian definition of marriage is not to accommodate adult relationships.  Rather, it is a loyal and committed relationship between a mother and father for the purpose of bearing children and providing them a balanced and nurturing environment.

A bold 13-year old Amelia Summerhays makes a courageous statement in a video at a Utah rally held in March 2013.  She passionately addresses the LGBT activists in the crowd asserting her civil rights to have both a mom and a dad.

Myth #5:  All people, ideas and philosophies must be treated, tolerated and respected equally.

FACT: This one should be so ridiculous it is self-evident, yet public schools and LGBT advocates use this illogical statement in the name of “fairness to all” and people believe it.

People make choices on a daily basis – which brand of products is best, which churches to attend, which friends to keep, and which people to date and marry.  Some ideas and philosophies are of lesser value than others, and some are entirely evil because when carried out, they damage others around them as well as the individuals that embrace them.

Alcohol, drugs, gambling, adultery, fornication, sodomy, prostitution, pornography, and promiscuity are among the practices the American founders considered “debauchery” and therefore rise to constitutional restrictions under a constructionist interpretation of the law.

Doug Mainwaring is one of many examples of gay men and women who have, by choice, rejected the notion of gay marriage in favor of traditional marriage as the best choice for raising children.  In a video he testifies before the Minnesota legislature against gay marriage.

In another video of his speech at Utah’s Celebration of Marriage on January 28, 2014 he explains his position in greater detail.

Myth #6:  The win-win compromise is to allow civil unions. 

FACT: Because of heavy marketing campaigns, the LGBT community has convinced some to believe that adopting civil union or domestic partnership laws will satisfy the gay community as a compromise. Such is not the case at all. In fact, civil unions are strategically used to force the next step: legalized gay marriage.

In every instance in which civil union laws have passed, the gay community has then taken the next step to file anti-discrimination lawsuits declaring unfair treatment.  This webpage fully explains why this is a dangerous step to take and why some are misled into believing this is a win-win compromise.

A Colorado LGBT website provides information on its civil union law, which includes the right to adopt children.  LGBT activists neglect to point out that civil law already allows for contractual agreements, rendering a civil union unnecessary to protect the existing rights of an individual to bequeath to anyone and also to designate hospital visitation, medical and end of life decisions.

Marriage has a special classification, and it is in society’s interest for the rearing of children to protect that classification with additional advantages that the law may provide.

Myth #7:  Pro-traditional marriage supporters are on the wrong side of history.  

FACT: This is an example of telling a lie enough times that people believe it. We ask those who are using this lie to site one historical example of a civilization that has withstood the test of time and that has been so successful that it is a universal standard to prove this claim correct. It is an indefensible falsehood.

History shows that nations and empires have fallen economically due to immoral recklessness, including Rome and, in ancient history, Sodom and Gomorrah.  Major global religions – including the Jewish, Catholic, Protestant, evangelical, Muslim, Mormon, and Hindu faiths – agree on this universal principle of marriage between a man and a woman.

Simply because a law may be created to legalize immorality does not make it moral.  A statement issued January 10, 2014 from the LDS Church emphasizes its stance.  Its policy on the family is called The Family: A Proclamation to the World.

Myth #8: Gay parents are just as good as heterosexual parents.  More abuse happens in heterosexual homes.  Homosexual behavior is normal.

FACT: Gay activists claim that research exists to show that same sex parenting is as good as, or better than, heterosexual parenting. Those studies are flawed or politically altered, ignoring scientific observation and medical science.

A Fox news report explains the flaws in these studies. In addition, the American Psychology Association has protected homosexual behavior against all scientific observations by censoring its original diagnosis as a mental illness. Recently reparative therapy, an effective counseling method, has been censored as an approved technique.

Janet Boynes, of the, is a former lesbian who speaks highly of reparative therapy she received in Minnesota from Congressman Michele Bachmann’s husband Marcus and his Christian-centered counseling approach. In a powerful and moving video, she describes her religious journey, also documented in her book Called Out.

A paper written by Joseph Nicolosi of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality explains the history and indefensible rationale of the APA’s politicized and non-research-based decision voted on by a pro-gay activist body.

In another scholarly paper, Paul McHugh, MD, University Distinguished Service Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University urged the end of sex reassignment surgery based on the findings that the procedure did not remedy the psychiatric problems that were originally presented.  In spite of his scientific observations, California has outlawed the only therapy that has shown positive results in treating the disorder of homosexuality.

In a video, a former homosexual defends this therapy as having saved his life.

Additional scientifically- and medically-based information is available from NARTH, information which is now being politically suppressed in the medical and social science fields.

Adult children of same sex parenting have spoken out and their testimonies resoundingly speak to the obvious:  that same sex parenting is harmful to children and deprives them of the balance and experiences of interacting with both sexes – a mother and a father.

This Canadian research shows that children of gay parents are not better off, and exposes the flaws of the much-cited Australian research.

Another Family Research Council article and a Heritage Foundation article clearly show that heterosexual homes are still the optimal environments for raising healthy children, physically and emotionally.  To summarize, children of lesbian mothers:

  • Are more likely to be currently cohabiting
  • Are almost 4 times more likely to be currently on public assistance
  • Are less likely to be currently employed full-time
  • Are more than 3 times more likely to be unemployed
  • Are nearly 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual
  • Are 3 times as likely to have had an affair while married or cohabiting
  • Are an astonishing 10 times more likely to have been “touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver.”
  • Are nearly 4 times as likely to have been “physically forced” to have sex against their will
  • Are more likely to have “attachment” problems related to the ability to depend on others
  • Use marijuana more frequently
  • Smoke more frequently
  • Watch TV for long periods more frequently
  • Have more often pled guilty to a non-minor offense

One man raised by lesbians, Robert Oscar Lopez, testified in a Minnesota legislative hearing about his opposition to gay marriage.

In another video Lopez explains further what his experience was growing up with “two mothers.”

Ryan Anderson, Research Fellow with Heritage Foundation testified in an Indiana legislative hearing with a powerful testimony highlighting the damage that fatherless homes do to children who are raised in them.

Myth #9: Non-discrimination laws have nothing to do with religious liberty. Being pro-gay is pro-business. 

FACT: The video clearly shows the growing religious bigotry and hatred that has plagued churches in Massachusetts that take a stand in favor of traditional marriage. Americans rally around businesses whose owners speak strongly in favor traditional marriage.

Dan Cathy, President and COO of Chick-Fil-A stood boldly in favor of traditional marriage and the nation rallied to give them the best quarter ever during the LGBT boycott.

The Massachusetts experience shows that non-discrimination laws remove constitutional protections from private citizens, business owners and religious adherents and in every state in which they have been enacted, they have proven to pave the way for legalizing gay marriage.

Now transgendered high schools are being normalized through non-discrimination laws across the country and in cities, towns and municipalities.  Now transgendered high schools are being normalized through non-discrimination laws across the country and in cities, towns and municipalities.

To illustrate the extent of the lack of understanding and the well-funded campaign to mislead, by January 2014 over half of Utah’s cities and counties had passed non-discrimination laws.

On January 30, 2014, based on its statewide non-discrimination laws which define gender as a “sincerely held belief”of one’s gender identity, a Maine Court ruled in favor of the right of a transgendered student – a fifth-grade boy – to use the girl’s bathroom.

Myth #10:  “It’s the last days.  We know we’re going to lose, so let’s just take care of our families.”  

FACT: Where is this assertion that we will lose and an admonition to retreat found in any body of scripture – in the Torah, the Qur’an, the Old Testament, the New Testament or The Book of Mormon?

An often-asked question is:  How did this happen in Utah?

This did not happen suddenly in Utah.  Many have been asleep or silent and meanwhile, more than a decade ago, the gay community targeted Utah because they knew that if they could win here, they could win anywhere.  They encouraged a critical mass of homosexuals to relocate to Salt Lake City, and today that city has the highest percentage of same sex couples raising children than any other city in the U.S.

The 11th Myth

(I added this one.) This fight is about traditional marriage vs. gay marriage.

FACT: This fight is really not about marriage at all. At its core, it’s really about homosexuality, which is, according to the major religions of the world, immoral and a sin. Many faiths teach similar principles: don’t hate the sinner – hate the sin.

Our laws must be moral laws. The belief that we do not legislate morality is a fallacy. If we do not legislate morality, then what do we legislate? Why do we have laws that punish murder? Stealing? Perjury? All are from the Ten Commandments. Sean Hannity wrote a book called Deliver Us From Evil, in which he makes the strong case for a fact: Good and Evil do exist in this world, and they do compete for the minds and hearts of the people.

The great Biblical heroes that major religions of the world embrace share the common principle of a repentance process, an atonement that Jesus Christ proclaimed in these words: “Go and sin no more.” And that is the message we must convey to our gay friends. That enduring principle of choosing good over evil must be reflected in our laws as well as in our hearts.

How Will We Win?

Utah will win in the Court of Law because Utah has a top-flight legal team in place in the Utah Attorney General’s office.  Opening arguments were submitted on February 3, 2014 with the assurance that these are the best and strongest arguments ever presented on marriage, sovereignty, morality and religious liberty.

The American Leadership Fund has also retained a qualified legal team preparing to join with others to influence the Court of Law through its strong amicus curiae brief (“friend of the Court”), which will be filed before the February 10th Court deadline.

But it will be more difficult to win in the Court of Law unless we first win in the Court of Public Opinion. An announcement will be made soon about ALF’s proposal.  The time is short, and as Court deadlines approach, with the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals hearing Utah’s case on April, 10th, we must act now.   Your generous donation is needed today.  Simply click on the donate button at the top.

If not us, who?  If not now, when?

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